Our Deepest Fears: What Marianne’s Words Meant To Me.

“Our Deepest fears are not that we are inadequate…”

The author Marianne Williamson stated in her novel A Return to Love that, “Our deepest fears are not that we are inadequate.” “Our deepest fears is that we are powerful beyond measure it is our light not our darkness that’s most frightens us.” The entire passage is one that I have come to know by heart because the meaning behind the words resonate so much with me. The quote prior resonates because you would think people would be afraid of their failures in life, yet it is success that scares them the most.

Well why does success scare people so much? Is it that they won’t be able to handle the attention that comes with it? Or is it the idea that the more you give to people the more they want; and you fear not being able to satisfy their need? Marianne went to answer these questions by saying, “We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous.” “Actually who are you not to be?” Which only meant, when you look into the mirror, why second guess the reason you are in the position you’re in or was given the talents you possess? Why not you?

Marianne went on to state, “Your playing small does not serve the world.” “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others won’t feel insecure when they’re around you.” We who possess such skills that set us apart from everybody else forces you to want to take a step back. We want to run with the pack even though we run faster than anyone in the pack. Why? Because we don’t want anyone else to feel insecure because they can’t keep up. So what do we do, we run with the group because we think it makes us noble. But it actually uncovers a character flaw that exist inside of us.

She let us know that, “You were made to manifest the glory of God that is within you.” “It’s not in some of us, it’s in everyone.” “And as you let your own light shine, you can unconsciously give others permission to do the same.” “As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” These quotes let us know that your power that you possess is not just in you it’s in everyone around you. The only difference between you and them, is that you actually will do what they only dream of doing. But once you step out into the world fearless and confident, this confidence frees up so many other people seeking to be just as great as you.

What’s interesting about Marianne Williamson’s novel, A Return to Love, is that our deepest is only a passage in the book. The book contained so much more than our deepest fears, yet our deepest fears are the constraints which harbor so many people from being the greatest version of them they can be. How did this passage help me? It freed me up to pursue my dreams in life. Dreams so many will never attempt; becoming a successful author and filmmaker.

You see, growing up for me was about going to college attaining your education. Upon leaving school, finding a job that not only pays every two weeks, but hopefully one which will assist in paying for graduate school in the process. Well, while going to graduate school, I found myself looking over my screenplay which had not been completed. Writing the script was a daunting task. So difficult I tossed it partially finished and continued to pursue my MBA. It wasn’t until I was almost complete with my degree I felt a lack of accomplishment.

Why? Because I was not pursuing anything I was passionately willing to do for the rest of my life. It was while finishing up my MBA I began to work more in New York City’s theatre scene that I picked-up my script once again. Finishing the script I took on new ideas and a new way of thinking. It was then I knew I didn’t belong in a corporate environment. Because the stories I have to tell, people need to read and listen to. That’s when Marianne’s passage started to resonate with me. My only reasons for not pursuing my dreams is not out of failure, it was fear of what comes with the success.

But the cost of me doing nothing felt like much more hurtful than doing something. I can live with working toward something and failing. What I cannot live with is the idea of reaching the age of 70, 80, or even 90, looking back going I should have. Because if you ask any man or woman in their elderly years what was their biggest regret in life they’ll tell you it’s no being reaching for the greatest them they could be. And that is more of a fear for me than anything in life. Getting to the end of my life and realizing it was for nothing. People might look and go, it looked nice to me, but what was it for me. Regret is one of the biggest pains of anyone in life. So in closing I say thank you Marianne, those words have been that bit of logic that have stuck with me for the past few years now. Those words as I journey through this tough terrain as a novelist and filmmaker: “Our deepest fears are that we are inadequate.” “Are deepest fears are that we are powerful beyond measure.”

Cherish Today: Moments You Can Never Get Back

Have you ever been sitting around thinking about the person close to you who is deceased? Have you ever asked yourself, “If only I had one more year, one more month, one more week, one more day, one hour, even a minute.” “If only I had said what I wanted to say before they left.” “If only we would have reconciled.” The regrets continue to pile up because people realize that we are not here forever, yet we never take the opportunity to fully be apart of each others’ lives. We say, “I want to call this person, but I’ll contact them later.” Then, once the person passes and tomorrow never comes, we regret. “How come I didn’t pick up the phone and call that person.” We never pick up the phone just to say hello, how are you doing.

In my life, I have lost a few people that were major in my family: my father’s mother, my mother’s mother and grandmother. When someone is alive, visiting them is not of immediate concern because what the hell, I’ll see them this weekend. I remember when my mother’s mother passed we were planning for Thanksgiving. Bringing together ideas for food and where it would take place. The night of Halloween, she passes away and the next month is the first holiday without her. I often think about her as well as her mother who passed less than a year later; and my father’s mother a few years after. So when people pass, what you have from them are photos, memories, and hopefully a remembrance of their voice. But it’s never the same as when they were here.

This post does not only extend to parents and grandparents, but other family as well. Married couples who have been with each other for years rarely cherish those days themselves. They figure, “Hey, that person is in my life.” “We’ll see each other tomorrow.” You lose your spouse and now there is no tomorrow because you just thought they were going to be waking up next to you everyday. Not once did it go through your mind that it’ll come to an end. You knew it would eventually, but not so soon.

But why are we so regretful toward the end. A lot of it has to do with not spending enough time with them while they are here. It can’t all be about them dying. Because think to yourself, when is the best time to die? What, 40, 50, 100 years of age. You’ll be unhappy at anytime. My great grandmother passed and she was almost 100 years old, yet no one was ready for her to pass. My advice in the end, do what you can while the person is alive. These grandparents were individuals who played a vital role in raising me growing up. I miss them, but I have so many memories because they played part in my upbringing. From the minor things they did to the major, I remember everything. I have memories that will last a lifetime. I miss them, but I have no regrets. Just about everything I wanted to ask them in life I got a chance. So, make the most of today because it could be your last. Tell the ones’ how much you love them now, so it won’t follow you later.