GONE TOO SOON: HOW LOSING SOMEONE WHO IS YOUNG MAKES YOU LOOK AT LIFE CLOSER

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“Here one minute and gone the next.”


No one wants to think of the day in which they will no longer be here on Earth. We dread that moment, but it won’t even be something we realize. We will just be gone, and that’s it. But our family and friends will hopefully make sure our name stays around forever. And another aspect of living and dying we hope is the belief that we will make it to a great age. I recently saw a post on my Facebook where someone I knew through passing, died this week. Only in his late twenties, it can shake you up when you hear this type of tragedy. Because I am abut to be thirty years old next month. And you never know when that day will be your last.

No one wants to think about that day especially when you’re young. We have all these visions of our lives once we reach an old age. We all hope that someone will be with us when we do pass along. But no one is ready to experience being told they only have a small time on this planet in their twenties. There are even people who die at younger ages. When you hear about a teenager dying it’s even more tragic. But what tends to be more shocking is once you find out how someone has died. Anytime I hear of a young person dying of natural causes, it always blows my mind. Especially if the person was around my age. You think to yourself, we are the same age and just passed unexpected. What is that about? How did that transpire?

It’s for those reasons we have a sense of urgency in life. So that whenever we do pass along, whatever we have done up to this point meant something. And that is something that terrifies people as much as dying. Which is dying and not even achieving close to what it is you set out to accomplish. There is this massive void you feel exist in your life. But if you have accomplished so much, and/or living the life you want, then can we honestly say this is a tragedy. You have people who live their life to the fullest, so their life was full of meaning. My great-grandmother passed away back in 2010. She was born in the year 1914. Now you’re talking a long life. I can’t imagine if I live that long what I would witness. Hence is another reason we aim for longevity. The longer we live, the more we are able to cope with our mortality.

In the end, no one wants to think about the day when they die. It’s final, and the only thing in life that is guaranteed. The eternal aspect creeps people out, yet there is something also so soothing and calming to the mind knowing that hardships and struggles are over. I guess this is why people cling so tight to religion because it gives us that feeling there is more after we leave here; thus making it easier to cope with our own mortality.


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LAST WISH: IF YOU DIED TONIGHT HOW HAPPY ARE YOU WITH YOUR LIFE THUS FAR

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“I’m fine with my life, how about you?”


We all think about death and whether we believe it or not, we fear on some level. But is there ever a right time to die in life? Is there an appropriate age to pass away. My great-grandmother was shy of her 100th birthday when she died. The average person lives to be 78, so nearly 100 years on this earth is a big deal. But I have a theory when it comes to death. My theory is that people are not more so afraid of death than they are dying young or leaving young children behind. Living a long fulfilling life is important and seeing your children grow is important.

When you are a young child and first learn that you will die some day, there is this fear that sets internally. But you grow to understand that most people die old. That’s until you start to see people around you die at young ages: 30 years old, 25 years old, or even 18 years old. Then you start to cringe at the idea that life could be that short for yourself. You lose someone at that young of an age and then mortality really sets internally. You have fear, but you also have a sense of urgency as well. And what about children; we fear passing and leaving behind a small child or children. As long as the child or children of ours is an adult and can care for themselves, we’re fine.

But the real question I want to ask is how good are you with life thus far? If you had to exit this Earth today, where is your at this moment? Or better yet, as you look over life thus far, can you say it meant something? A lot of people can’t say their lives meant something. The movie All Eyez On Me, the biopic chronicling the life of rapper 2Pac Shakur was recently released. He was killed at the age of only 25, but his name is ingrained in history. How many 25 year olds have a global impact on people that has lasted over 20 years? So it’s not just age, it’s your time spent on this Earth. But what if you didn’t live the life you wanted?

There are so many people who are not living their full life. So if they were to die today, their whole lives were for nothing. What heartache that must be; to live a lifetime and then realize it meant nothing. I guess that’s why people’s belief in God is so strong. Because if you can’t see more with here and now, then maybe there is something for you after. Now when asking myself this question, I am kind of on the fence. Thus far in my life I am living a fulfilling life, but I also have so much I still want to accomplish. I know the ideas in my head I want to cultivate even though no one else does.

In the end, we fear dying so much because we don’t want the end to mean nothing. There is a poor guy somewhere that no one cares about. I live in New York City, and you see it everyday. And when he dies that is it. No one will care and his body will be placed wherever there is room for him, if any. That must feel awful for that person, because I know there are people who love me. And if only those that have little to lose and gain could feel that same love, they would be better off themselves.


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