LET ME UPGRADE YOU: WHAT IS DATING UP TO YOU

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“Come talk to me when you’re on my level.”


In an American society where commerce dictates so much of how we live and how we behave, how does this commerce relationship we have in this country effect our dating lives? For men, you know what you have to bring if you’re going to be living in this capitalistic based society. And as for women, you’re steady trying to find that guy who you see as your equal or above. But when you are a man in this country it can be a tougher go. You know you have to be in a certain place in your life by a certain time. Women can live with their parents and still demand from men the same things as a woman with her own form of success. With that said, what are the thoughts on dating up? Because dating up is more of a woman’s viewpoint, but for men only under certain circumstances.

Women have to date up; why well it’s simple. So many men are trying to get with you, whether to be in a relationship or just for sexual intercourse. So you have to more picky, and there is a lot more thought that goes into choosing a guy. And the prettier the woman, the harder it is for her to find a potential mate. Because the pool of men who want to be with you is even higher. Unlike men, who see this as an opportunity to date around because we have so many options, for women it can be harder because of so many options. So when a woman does choose a guy, he’s going to have to really step up, especially if she is a woman that’s used to guys at a certain level trying to talk to her. Now that does not necessarily translate into just finances, it’s that and more. But are there times when men have to upgrade as well. We, unlike women, don’t have to, but there are those that do.

When it’s time for men to upgrade, we have to do so when finances are involved. Because to us marriage is an investment that only we can lose for the most part financially. So when a man becomes financially successful, he becomes that pretty girl. And that’s when he starts to be extra selective with the women that he dates. He has to learn to sense out the very things that women have to sense out about men when choosing. Because just like with every man trying to get with a woman, so many women look at you as this total package. But not all of them are worthy, so you have to shuffle through the plethora of women like women do us. See, in the end, finding that person you feel is on the level you want them to be is important to so many. As a matter of fact, it is more important now than any other time period prior. But if finances is that one thing you’re trying to seek out alone as a woman it will be harder to find; jut like we as men can’t just chase a woman for aesthetics purposes only.


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SEX: Tell Or Someone Will

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“Better you than their friends.”

Why do parents insist on not being up front with their children regarding sex? They act as if they don’t converse about it, maybe their children won’t lose their virginity. Since when has that ever worked. As a parent our job is to talk to your children. The only problem today is that you have to talk to your child at even a younger age than previous generations. As a matter of fact, past generations didn’t even entertain the idea of their child having sex. I guess the more time progress, the more open we become.

But, there are still so many parents that don’t talk. We’ve all grown up or have been the person who goes, “I can’t talk to my parents about sex.” “They would lose it if I asked a question about sex.” Well, what about the emotions that still run deep. Males and females still have emotions as they come through puberty. You would think parents could connect, being they were adolescence. On the other hand, that may be a reason that parents can’t talk. They think back to when they were young. The thoughts that went through minds and the emotions in their hearts.

Yet, this actually is a more logical reason to have a discussion. How can you not teach your kid the realities of life? “Well, if I tell them, I am almost promoting it.” “I am in a way opening the door for them to engage.” These are the responses from parents as to why they can;t have the conversation. On the other hand, let’s say you’re right, talking to them anyways would lower the risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STD). People with less education about STD’s are more likely to get and STD.

Well a more conservative parent says, “That’s why you wait until you’re married.” “Sex is for marriage, so you can’t get an STD when you’re married.” WRONG! As a matter of fact, married men and women have been diagnosed and continue to get diagnosed today and treated for STD’s. Well, isn’t marriage suppose to protect you from an STD. No, and the reason being is that if you never talk about sex, how do you bring up your significant others’ sexual history? Your parents didn’t talk, you never talked, now you don’t talk to your spouse.

So as you can see, having these type of conversations are very important. Especially if their friends are already talking to them. The friends will give them the misleading information which can lead to far more serious outcomes. Because they are going to find out, rather you tell them or not. It’s going to come from the person who brought them into this world. Or they are going to get outside advice. Which in turn you better hope that information is something they can grab hold on to.