“Is it good or is it bad?”
How many people give their children whippings if they misbehave? Is it good to whoop your child or is not ok? What are the lasting effects of a child that receives a whooping? We have even adopted a term to describe the whooping as, “Corporal Punishment.” Wow, corporal, is it really that serious? A little tap on the butt for misbehaving is corporal, really? Trust me, I understand the deep physical wounds that are left on the bodies of some young people. Is there a right way to whoop your child without leaving wounds? But if you are whooping that child, yet attempting to not leave wounds, isn’t that just as damaging?
Well I guess it depends on the household, ethnicity, generation, and region of the country. To me, I think it depends on the house, your age, and the region of America on how a child shall be punished for breaking rules. For starters, I look at the household. In the household where I was raised, you knew that get a whooping was for something serious: skipping school, drugs, weapons, and/or disrespecting adults.
Now, there are exceptions to drugs and weapons. I mean, what would you do if your kid got caught with drugs and a gun. But disrespecting an adult, is that really deserving of a whooping. Some believe in the time out method, but a whooping is what is known as lights out. The lights out method is a real good whooping where your mother or father become tired afterward.
Wow, whooping to the point of fatigue. Is that really necessary? Well, if not household, maybe there is a generational reason for whippings. Because kids today don’t get as many whippings as the Lost Generation of the 1910’s and 1920’s. They were hard, they were stern, and you know they meant business. There were no if ands or buts; you got out of line, you got whacked. And this didn’t stop at home. In those days you could whoop a kid in school. Imagine that, a whooping in today’s sensitive society. That teacher would be fired on the spot.
But then again, there were no school shootings and more respect for your educator was instilled as well. Maybe they was on to something back then. You there was always going to be a physical repercussion for getting an attitude. On the other hand, this was also a generation that held on to a lot of pain and trauma. There was no talking things through, just straight action. It’s almost as if they believed talking things out made you weak.
So if it’s not generational, what about ethnicity. I know at least being raised in a Black household you get whooped. You not only get whooped, but you get beatings. I mean mother and father out of breathe beatings. I’m talking you can barely sit or sleep beatings. I’m talking welts on your back from extension cord beatings. I’m talking, wait a minute, that sounds traumatic.
Of course it’s traumatic, but when you observe Black history you go, “I get it.” We punished our children so harshly because rearing them hard at home meant less attacks from the outside world that wasn’t too fond of Black people. But beating your children so other won’t sounds crazy. and you know what it is, which leads to traumatic life experiences.
Now, that leaves one more reason why whooping a kid is fine among some people. And that is region. Depending on what region you come from, whippings are fine. If you are from the south, views on whippings are different than the west coast. For instance, Texas views are different than Rhode Island views. The viewpoints are so strong in the south, they are known as the, “bible belt.”
Whatever the case may be, this has and will always be an issue to a lot of people. As a matter of fact, the more time goes on, we are less prone to whoop kids. We’re not receptive like our past generations. And that’s what it boils down to is generational. No matter the region, household, or ethnicity, everyone in the past got whippings. But time progresses we get softer and softer. So in the end maybe we are moving in the right direction; at least I hope so.