“Don’t bring them too close.”
At work, we all would like to think of ourselves as these very friendly people. But we must sit back and think to ourselves and realize we are all in competition as well. It’s good and all to be nice, but you have to understand that we may be going for the same position. That is tough because how can you be friendly with someone who is your nemesis at the same time. And I know I know, you probably saying, “Nemesis, that’s a bit harsh.” But you really are when you look at it. We all want to make a comfortable living, yet this friend of yours is standing in the way. So now you have to make a decision.
kept at arms length
I have been guilty of this type of behavior. I am known to be the guy who either don’t say much or the one who is the aloof good quiet guy. So people may look at this and take it a certain way. As for me, I don’t want to get to close to the people in competition. The reason being, you guys are friends up to a certain point in life. You are not besties that are going to raise your children together. And hell you might be, but it shouldn’t truly show itself. Keep yourselves at a certain arms length.
trouble comes and fingers point
when it’s all said and done, we all have bills to pay. No one wants to lose their job over workplace bullshit. So when drama starts, rest assured, the fingers will start to point. And no matter how good of friends you are with someone, they will rat you out. They are not losing their job when they have children, spouse, food, and a mortgage. They will dime you out, so make sure they are too close to know too much. This way anytime anything gets started around the office, you are never in the conversation. I have always been in conversation for work, never something that could get me fired. Be aware of those close to you.
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